I have been dating a man for 2.5 years and we have a baby together. His wife left him for someone else after 15 years and 3 children. He asked me out within 3 months. He is struggling with intimacy but swears it's the way he is and always has been. ??

Define 'struggling with intimacy'?
Does that mean there is something lacking in the bedroom, or he isn't very affectionate?

Either way, it may have been how he's always been, but tell him you need more and offer to work together to find a way for both of you to be happy.
Maybe he doesn't understand your needs and how to meet them; show him this:
http://su.pr/2LSta8

Ask me anything