Well at this exact second, I feel a bit yucky.
I have a friend who is going through a tough time, so I pushed a bit too hard in trying to help them see that it's not all their fault and ended up upsetting them more.
The path to healing is a rocky one, but I prefer to try and 'first do no harm', as it were. The strange thing is it's triggering my old 'fixer' tendencies; like I want to figure out the right magic words right now to fix it all RIGHT NOW, even though I know no such words exist. I have given up thinking like that, though for a few reasons: 1 people's process are their process, and they heal in the right way in the right time, ALWAYS; 2, people aren't 'broken' so there is nothing to 'fix', I just help people make new and better choices that serve them; 3, I'd go insane doing what I do if I had the level of emotional involvement I used to have. Like I said, people's process is there process, and quite often I have to stand by and witness people make the same mistakes over and over and over without getting irritated, frustrated, or angry.
It's not for me to judge people's decisions, I just try and 'coach' them through it and, as I said, help them make better decisions. I guess seeing someone I've come to value and care about treated poorly, and then begin to believe they somehow DESERVE that treatment, triggered those old protective instincts.
But,
I see it, I accept it, I release it. And it is done. O=)
Today was a good day overall; got some work done, nice walk and dinner with the family. Got a bit sick at a restaurant that a friend who is coming into town tomorrow is begging to go back to, oh noes!
All in all it was grand; but probably best to call it an early night.
Oh yes, I did do an article and a video on Jealousy and how to beat it (or at least use it to your advantage):
http://su.pr/AXC64G
B. Dave Walters
*National* Spirituality Column:
http://su.pr/8nfJgO
Relationships Column:http://su.pr/31ml0X
http://ping.fm/4BImo
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
No comments:
Post a Comment